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The BeFrienders ministry at St John's is part of a national program that reaches out to provide emotional and spiritual support to people who are in need. We presently have 30 trained BeFrienders at St John's who are available to assist with a variety of needs. Therefore, this ministry is seeking:

  • Persons with a need for whom BeFriending may be helpful.

  • Persons who might want to become a trained BeFriender.

BeFriending involves a confidential and one-on-one visit between the BeFriender and the person needing or seeking comfort, support, and spiritual needs. On an on-going basis, the BeFriender listens to what is needed, supports the person's search for understanding and comfort, and is not expected to fix or counsel. BeFriending may take place in varying environments and address BeFriendee issues such as:

  • Hospital visits and follow-up after release

    • Grief and loss issues related to illness
    • Providing Eucharist and prayer
  • Nursing home and health and hospice care center visits

    • Grief and loss issues
    • Loneliness and uselessness issues
    • Alzheimer's and memory loss
    • Terminal illness
    • Providing Eucharist and prayer
  • Home visits on a continuing basis or during a transition

    • Grief and loss issues
    • Continuing support after a funeral
    • Marital and family problems
    • Terminal illness
    • Job loss issues
    • Military deployment
    • Alzheimer's and memory loss
    • Youth problems
    • Providing Eucharist and prayer

Some qualities of a person who is BeFriending another person include:

  • A person who can allow others to express their own feelings without telling them how they should or shouldn't feel.
  • A person who is willing to sit quietly with others when they can't put their hurts into words.
  • A person in whom others can freely confide, knowing that confidentiality is a priority on their list of values.
  • A person who can accept others as they are, rather than the way that person thinks others ought to be.
  • A person who will give others time and opportunity to make their own decisions without feeling a need to decide for them.
  • A person who can ask how others are doing without feeling an obligation to tell them what they should be doing.
  • A person who can listen to others even when they don't make sense.
  • A person who is able to admit they, too, experience life as burdensome at times and find it necessary to seek comfort and support from others.
  • A person who can hear others out without telling them they know what's best for them.
  • A person who understands and values the faith community as necessary for spiritual growth.
  • A person who has an ability to draw on his or her own spiritual resources.
  • A person who can show concern and care in these ways is a true BeFriender


Contact: Deacon Russ Shupe